Terrible 2 and half year old son to start pre-school
My partner and I have our first son together going to pre-school next week. He is 2 1/2 years old and has a few bad habits and behaviors as a result of having multiple caregivers from my family all with different styles of caring for our child while my partner and I are at work. My partner and I didn’t set any ground rules early on as we were perceived as the unknowing unwise first time new parents. A few of the bad behaviours are as follows and we are stressing out whether our kid will bring this bad behaviour of his on his first year of school or whether the nursery school will somehow mold that behaviour into something pleasant and change it for the good. We’re very nervous how our kid will do - will he thrive ?will it curb his tantrums /bad behaviour? Or will we have to pull him out of school if both sides (parents & school) see him as not being ready for school at 2 and half years old?
Any experience with a terrible two year old son/daughter with the following behaviour ? How did you manage ?
- throwing objects (big & small) your direction unprovoked
- throwing tantrums and harming self and others if he doesn’t get what he wants (headbutting others - he once gave me a bloody nose and a bruised face because of this , kicking others and screaming never ending)
- pulling others hair/hitting/slapping others when upset and not knowing about turn taking or know how to share
Lastly:
- around the age of 1-2 years old he was introduced to an iPad by my mother (grandmother) and his uncles (my brothers) to entertain him while my partner and I are at work and I didn’t set my foot down with my family to not give him the iPad out of fear of my family’s judgment/rejection (ie. being to unnecessarily strict on my kid at an early age or potentially that my family refusing to take care of our son if I say something that goes against their way of caregiving).
Since this has gone on, my kid says iPad repeatedly at his own whim and throws a major tantrum when not being given. The whole house turns upside down when he has a major tantrum where everyone (including ourselves) Are at the point of given up and just give him what he wants to stop any of the above....
I admit my partner and I are to blame at the early stages where this could have been avoided but as new first time parents we relied so much on others for help (and advice) that it is turning out to be not for the better... I feel like the nursery school is our last shot for changing our kid’s bad behaviour..
Any thoughts? Experience on how you dealt with a terrible two?
Any experience with a terrible two year old son/daughter with the following behaviour ? How did you manage ?
- throwing objects (big & small) your direction unprovoked
- throwing tantrums and harming self and others if he doesn’t get what he wants (headbutting others - he once gave me a bloody nose and a bruised face because of this , kicking others and screaming never ending)
- pulling others hair/hitting/slapping others when upset and not knowing about turn taking or know how to share
Lastly:
- around the age of 1-2 years old he was introduced to an iPad by my mother (grandmother) and his uncles (my brothers) to entertain him while my partner and I are at work and I didn’t set my foot down with my family to not give him the iPad out of fear of my family’s judgment/rejection (ie. being to unnecessarily strict on my kid at an early age or potentially that my family refusing to take care of our son if I say something that goes against their way of caregiving).
Since this has gone on, my kid says iPad repeatedly at his own whim and throws a major tantrum when not being given. The whole house turns upside down when he has a major tantrum where everyone (including ourselves) Are at the point of given up and just give him what he wants to stop any of the above....
I admit my partner and I are to blame at the early stages where this could have been avoided but as new first time parents we relied so much on others for help (and advice) that it is turning out to be not for the better... I feel like the nursery school is our last shot for changing our kid’s bad behaviour..
Any thoughts? Experience on how you dealt with a terrible two?