Tips / websites for finding a private tutor
Oct 14th, 2019 8:56 pm
Oct 15th, 2019 5:41 pm
Oct 16th, 2019 12:06 am
Oct 16th, 2019 8:03 am
Oct 16th, 2019 8:07 am
Primarily the homework. It takes an hour to two to complete, a few days each week. I'd like to have someone help us with that.
Oct 16th, 2019 9:00 am
You could visit the big franchises like Sylvan or Oxford to tour their facilities, meet the teachers and see the environment. You're probably going to want to find a place that keeps the group sizes to four or under. I've had students go to tutoring centres where they had one tutor with eight or more students and they basically got no attention. Your best bet is to look around in your community for flyers posted on mail boxes or grocery stores or community centres of private tutors that are OCT certified. You'll likely be able to find a certified teacher offering tutoring for around $40/hr for a Grade 2 student. You can check that a teacher is certified by going to oct.ca and looking up their name. If you prefer a physical centre, different experiences will vary. I don't have any recommendations for a child that young but I might ask some other parents at your child's school or even some teachers. They'll have recommendations specific to your community.
Oct 16th, 2019 11:22 am
Oct 16th, 2019 1:51 pm
Oct 16th, 2019 2:18 pm
Oct 16th, 2019 10:07 pm
Oct 17th, 2019 9:26 am
Oct 17th, 2019 10:24 am
So you have three challengesjunkmail2002 wrote: ↑ I think the problem is partially with the student (focus) and partially with us as parents who don't have the time/energy/patience to deal with the lack of focus (and behaviour that is normal for a kid) and partially with the amount of homework the school gives out, creating a trifecta of factors which result in frustrated parents, frustrated student and creating negative feedback to learning... and then each session further reinforcing this.
The hope is that having someone who is outside of the current relationship dynamics, and someone who the student would look up to and be more open to listening/learning will make it easier to learn and turn what now seems like a spiral in the negative direction, into something more positive.
Oct 17th, 2019 12:11 pm
Oct 17th, 2019 12:34 pm
My kids’ principal raves about the benefits of unstructured play time for primary age kids instead of homework.stoppy wrote: ↑ Does anyone have any tips on what might help? We have cut down considerably on screen time as I noticed that would make him more fidgety and less likely to focus. He already goes for martial arts 2x a week and swimming 1x. I also notice focus issues in the extracurriculars as he just wants to play and not listen to the instructor.
Oct 17th, 2019 1:10 pm
What is it that you want him to focus on, and what's his incentive for providing that focus? It's difficult for adults to focus on things that we find meaningless and boring. The difference is that we've developed strategies to sit through those things in a way that doesn't disturb others. Why would we expect a 6-year-old to be able to focus on things that he doesn't find interesting? Does he enjoy martial arts and swimming? Who made the choice to enrol him in those activities instead of others? Are there any activities that he's experienced at school that he might want to try?Arias1619 wrote: ↑ Thank you for those who posted their advice on this. I’m also struggling with my grade 1 son. The issue here isn’t too much homework but lack of focus. It’s extremely exhausting to keep reminding him to focus, especially with another child and one more on the way. Does anyone have any tips on what might help? We have cut down considerably on screen time as I noticed that would make him more fidgety and less likely to focus. He already goes for martial arts 2x a week and swimming 1x. I also notice focus issues in the extracurriculars as he just wants to play and not listen to the instructor.
Oct 17th, 2019 2:06 pm
Is he tired or cranky at 3:00? by dinner time? Are you having meals in the car? Sleeping enough? Ultimately, you're the best judge of what is too much/just right/not enough for your kids. Some kids are exhausted after the day at school, some kids need more.Arias1619 wrote: ↑ Thank you, I will definitely try this. My kids love being outdoors, but I don’t, and I’m currently expecting making it even harder. Luckily the grandparents take them outdoors often. I will definitely try to do what you have said. Do you think the activities that I have listed are too much for my 6 year old (martial arts 2x, swimming 1x, religious school Friday nights).
Oct 17th, 2019 4:03 pm
Oct 18th, 2019 4:44 am
Macx2mommy wrote: ↑ Both my kids have had amazing focus, it was commented even then they were in preschool. I would like to take credit that it was my perfect parenting, but most likely it was from I got lucky with awesome kids and figured how to work with them (though not always perfectly). My kids are older at 10 & 13, and their focus and planning is stronger than most kids I see.
Here's my long random list of somethings that may have helped (or maybe not, but I remember reading about a lot of these things)
- Keep technology away from them as long as possible. This is ANYTHING with a screen, TV's, ipads, computer, phones, etc. My older didn't watch anything except a planned family movie until almost 5. My youngest got a little screen time at about two, only because she was near my oldest. My kids were not even allowed near screens when at friends houses. If other kids were playing video games, we brought interactive games. Our kids had no choice but to read, puzzles, crafts, plays. Even their toys were generally non-electric. There is not much that can compete with the allure of technology. I find that now that my kids have tech available, and if they are on it too much, they lose focus and become agitated. We even do tech detoxes every few months. All homework complete before the weekend, and then no tech. My kids are usually pretty well behaved, but I can even see the difference after a tech detox. They often rediscover things that they loved like old books, drawing, games, etc.
- When young, we did a lot of free play that was structured. So not in classes, but there was still some structure such as crafts, coloring, reading, puppet time, cooking, etc. They could choose what they wanted to do, and then there was usually some sort of 'outcome' like cupcakes, a drawing, presenting a puppet show.
- Free quiet was also scheduled. Weird, but they were a time for at least 30 minutes, they had to quietly entertain themselves. This was so I could get some stuff done and have a little peace. It was also there to teach them to self regulate. A timer was set and unless their was blood or injury, they couldn't bother me. They would go well past 30 minutes sometimes because they found something interesting to do but it couldn't be disruptive or loud.
-My kids were always in activities, but usually to compliment different interests. We had an 'artist' one like drama or piano, a sport, and girl guides which covers a little of everything, and because I have always been a leader, I have a lot of input so it's well rounded.
For planning, homework, and focus... you should look up 'executive skills'. I didn't know what it was as a parent, but have been finding out that my kids have a lot of them, and I have been unknowing helping them build them.
- we have always had routines from a baby to now. We will go over what their day was when they were old enough.
- Have them help write out their routine. When my toddler was 3, she would write her own 'day plans' Wake up, eat, poop, read, play, nap, written 3 times. We continued this when she started full day school. She had a little day magnetic calendar (Melissa and doug) where on Sunday, we would create the schedule for the week. Every day, she had the same routine that as soon as she gets home from school, she would have her snack, do her 'chores', and her homework or responsibilities. The expectation was by the time I got home from work, piano practice was complete, chores were done, reading was done.
In terms of completing homework - some of the things we have done since preschool
- Schedule time after school to do homework and music If there isn't any, then quiet reading for at least 20 minutes (their choice of what ever they wanted)
- We didn't help with homework content unless they made a clear effort. However, I would help in approaching the homework. So I would give them strategies on how they could answer questions (take the easy ones, see if there are hints, is a place you can find clues).
- Breaking larger assignments down has been a huge help when they get stuck. If they got stuck on one question. and it looked long, we would split out the time just for that one question, then give it a rest. Now with larger assignments, my kids are pretty good a breaking down the work into packages and then deciding when they will do it based on their schedule. An example of this in the lower grades would be, there are 20 questions and it feels like it will take forever. How about lets do 5 questions now, then another 5 before dinner, then 10 when we come home from swimming. Little takes and targets really help focus.
We are a pretty busy family, but that's because the kids have choosen to be such. When the youngest was dying to try a new sport, we didn't have the time, she researched it, found a night where it could work, asked about our schedules and readjusted her plan. As a result we agreed to let her be on the team, but she has to stay on top of everything else. For her, it's her motivation to stay focused.
Oct 18th, 2019 4:45 am
stoppy wrote: ↑ Is he tired or cranky at 3:00? by dinner time? Are you having meals in the car? Sleeping enough? Ultimately, you're the best judge of what is too much/just right/not enough for your kids. Some kids are exhausted after the day at school, some kids need more.
What I took away from the principal's advice are:
- kids need to have age-appropriate autonomy to help them establish their voice and identity. They have few opportunities to do this if they're "bossed around" by adults all day at school, after school in extracurricular activities, and then by parents at home.
- to be more selective about what occupies the precious hours that (working) parents have with their young kids,
- more extracurricular activity is not necessarily better, despite what other parents say
- everyone needs down time and it's perfectly fine to do NOTHING after a long day/week/term at work/school. Be intentional about scheduling in time to pause and play, yes for rest and for fun.
Right now we are balancing the "fear of missing out" with happier, quality family time. So they might not get to do soccer/dance/kumon/etc like their friends but they are getting more people skills, soft skills, independence, self-efficacy, etc. Don't get me wrong, my kids still go to Girl Guides and music class once a week, where it is adult-directed but we're selective about it. Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living". It's easy to get caught up in the flurry of busy-ness but it's more worthwhile to engage in things that are truly meaningful to you and your family.
Oct 18th, 2019 7:44 am