Wedding planned for the last 3 years. How would you proceed?
Hi all,
My fiancée and I have been engaged for the last 3 years, all coming down to this October.
Without stating the obvious elephant in the room, we’re so uncertain on how to proceed, and I was hoping to get all of your thoughts?
Some facts about the wedding:
-Outdoor ceremony, indoor dinner
-120 planned guests. We’re estimating 60-70 due to concerns
-$10k paid for venue, another $8k owing. Everything else is booked and paid for (most vendors allowing a refund if we cancel due to C19)
My parents are both against the wedding in these circumstances. We have friends and family who I know are also super uncomfortable.
Neither my wife and I are egotistic or self-centered. I have always been against the idea of a traditional large(ish) wedding, however like for many it’s my fiancées dream. If we continue to get married on our original date (without the guests and celebration), I don’t see the point of going through with a large party at the venue down the road. (ie postponing until 2021-2022). Plus, who’s to say corona is not still an issue? I would hate to have to have this looming over our heads for years.
On the other hand, I know how much my fiancée has been looking forward to this, and how upset she’ll be if we cancel it all together.
We’ve discussed limiting guests to only family+wedding party, but even then we will have 45 people and my family has concerns.
RFD — what is your perspective?
My fiancée and I have been engaged for the last 3 years, all coming down to this October.
Without stating the obvious elephant in the room, we’re so uncertain on how to proceed, and I was hoping to get all of your thoughts?
Some facts about the wedding:
-Outdoor ceremony, indoor dinner
-120 planned guests. We’re estimating 60-70 due to concerns
-$10k paid for venue, another $8k owing. Everything else is booked and paid for (most vendors allowing a refund if we cancel due to C19)
My parents are both against the wedding in these circumstances. We have friends and family who I know are also super uncomfortable.
Neither my wife and I are egotistic or self-centered. I have always been against the idea of a traditional large(ish) wedding, however like for many it’s my fiancées dream. If we continue to get married on our original date (without the guests and celebration), I don’t see the point of going through with a large party at the venue down the road. (ie postponing until 2021-2022). Plus, who’s to say corona is not still an issue? I would hate to have to have this looming over our heads for years.
On the other hand, I know how much my fiancée has been looking forward to this, and how upset she’ll be if we cancel it all together.
We’ve discussed limiting guests to only family+wedding party, but even then we will have 45 people and my family has concerns.
RFD — what is your perspective?
