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At what age should you stop hugging/holding your child?

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At what age should you stop hugging/holding your child?

My son just turned 1, and I just love holding/hugging him. I could do it for hours if he lets me (he prefers his mama) - it is probably one of the best feeling in the world for me right now.. I love to squeeze him in my arm...

So at what age should I stop holding him for no reason? Before it get weird/awkward? I can't recall the last time my dad held me other than a goodbye hug at the airport etc..
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Lol, that depends on you and your child.
My grandma (in her eighties), still hugs and kisses me when I visit her and I'm a grown ass man.
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tonershop wrote: My son just turned 1, and I just love holding/hugging him. I could do it for hours if he lets me (he prefers his mama) - it is probably one of the best feeling in the world for me right now.. I love to squeeze him in my arm...

So at what age should I stop holding him for no reason? Before it get weird/awkward? I can't recall the last time my dad held me other than a goodbye hug at the airport etc..
Never stop completely. However, as they get older they will not want to do it with there friend around. There will also be times where they don't want a hug, which they will tell you and should always be respected. I still give my kids hugs at 10 & 13 and they tell me when it's enough.

It only becomes awkward when you don't do it for a while.
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tonershop wrote: My son just turned 1, and I just love holding/hugging him. I could do it for hours if he lets me (he prefers his mama) - it is probably one of the best feeling in the world for me right now.. I love to squeeze him in my arm...

So at what age should I stop holding him for no reason? Before it get weird/awkward? I can't recall the last time my dad held me other than a goodbye hug at the airport etc..
When either or both of you don't enjoy it anymore, stop. So long as you both enjoy it, by all means keep it up.
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I will stop hugging them when I am dead. My stinky, sarcastic teenager gave me a hug in front of her whole team this weekend for no reason and it was lovely.
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Macx2mommy wrote: Never stop completely. However, as they get older they will not want to do it with there friend around. There will also be times where they don't want a hug, which they will tell you and should always be respected. I still give my kids hugs at 10 & 13 and they tell me when it's enough.

It only becomes awkward when you don't do it for a while.
I suppose you are right, I guess I will know when the time comes.. Probably when he is embarrassed to be seen with his old man LOL
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Canadian problem lol. Can't hug or kiss another man or you'll be seen as gay.
I'm 38 and my dad still kisses me in the cheek. In our culture hugging, kissing in the cheeks between men is normal.
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Macx2mommy wrote: Never stop completely. However, as they get older they will not want to do it with there friend around. There will also be times where they don't want a hug, which they will tell you and should always be respected. I still give my kids hugs at 10 & 13 and they tell me when it's enough.

It only becomes awkward when you don't do it for a while.
Don't stop. And always remind them to wear a hat out because it's cold! lol.
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poorwingman wrote: Don't stop. And always remind them to wear a hat out because it's cold! lol.
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Stop? I'll never stop hugging my kids. I hugged my dad until the day he died.
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I'm 40 and I still hug my parents.
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my son is 60 pounds...still can carry him but not for very long....

hug? havent stopped yet lol

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