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Wife angry that I wouldn't face the shelves in the store

I hesitate to even create this thread because it seems so ridiculous, but there is one other thing my wife is angry at me about. I am tall, and the last time we were shopping, I reached a box that was on the top shelf, right at the back. After I grabbed it for us, my wife then asked me, "please move the rest of the boxes to the front of the shelf so others can reach them". I told her, "no. why would I do that? I don't work for Superstore". There was nobody else around who was looking for the item. As far as I'm concerned, that's the store's problem, not mine, and even if someone was actually trying to reach the item I would be under no obligation to help them unless I wanted to. My wife says it's a sign that I am not a nice person, I wouldn't help others, and I wouldn't do something that she asked me to do. She says it would be so easy for me, take only two seconds, and yet I am so selfish and mean that I want people to suffer.

What do you think? Would you do it?
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If my wife asked, yes.

If my wife didn't ask, no.

It wasn't your problem, until your wife asked.
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With or without wife, I would have done it.
to each their own.
but I'd agree with your wife's statement.
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Your wife is a nice person....I guess it's true opposites attract lol.
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I would have pulled them forward, but this is habit from facing shelves when I did work in a grocery store!
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There's lots of ways to show you're a "nice" person. Pulling products to the front of the shelf isn't one of them in my opinion. Your wife seems to have some other issues though if something like that sets her off. The responses in this thread are pretty pathetic. No one should feel forced or obligated to do something that they don't want to. He set his boundaries and stuck to it and yet is getting chastised for it. Doesn't mean he's not a nice person. So judgmental
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hierophant wrote: There's lots of ways to show you're a "nice" person. Pulling products to the front of the shelf isn't one of them in my opinion. Your wife seems to have some other issues though if something like that sets her off. The responses in this thread are pretty pathetic. No one should feel forced or obligated to do something that they don't want to. He set his boundaries and stuck to it and yet is getting chastised for it. Doesn't mean he's not a nice person. So judgmental
It's not judgmental at all, it's silly and such a SIMPLE thing to do to help ppl out and appease his wife but OP is acting as though it's against the very core of his principles, like forcing him to eat meat if he's a vegan.

The prb is w *him*, he's the issue here.
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trumprules wrote: and yet I am so selfish and mean that I want people to suffer.
Yup. This sums it up in a nutshell.

+1 for your wife.
and even if someone was actually trying to reach the item I would be under no obligation to help them unless I wanted to.
...so the next time your wife shares with you a story about how she was unable to reach something on the shelf, and a taller person there refused to help, you're gonna reply "fukken-A...I wouldn't help you either, you short-azz cow!"...aren't you?

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ALLCAPS wrote: Yup. This sums it up in a nutshell.

+1 for your wife.


...so the next time your wife shares with you a story about how she was unable to reach something on the shelf, and a taller person there refused to help, you're gonna reply "fukken-A...I wouldn't help you either, you short-azz cow!"...aren't you?

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+1 it all starts w poor attitude like that, then progresses into not holding doors for ppl, then into ppl leaving carts all over the parking lot, then cutting ppl off, driving on shoulders, then making those disgusting right turns from the middle lanes cutting other vehicles off, then driving in the WRONG direction on highways cuz they can't be bothered to wait, then drinking and driving smashing into families. Selfish pricks.
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Sometimes I will pick up an item off the floor and put it somewhere on the shelf, even though I don't work there and have never worked for that company. No big deal.

If I see someone who is stretching to reach a high item, I'll ask if they want a hand. Don't know them and don't care to know them, but it's no big deal.

I probably wouldn't have done it when I was younger, but have matured ... I hope :) .
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To the OP, given what you've been whining about in these two threads....

Ever heard the phrase Don't die on this hill?

Or another: You can be right or you can be happy. You can't be both.

Best advice is to suck it up and STFU unless you want to be served with divorce papers.
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Ísn't a healthy marriage all about compromise? ..... as in you face the shelves, she lets you price match ?

http://forums.redflagdeals.com/wife-hat ... g-2339980/
trumprules wrote: My wife is always pissed off every time I price match something, saying it's embarrassing and a waste of time to save 50 cents here, 50 cents there. Her negative attitude actually eggs me on and last time we went to Superstore, I price matched 3/4 of the items in the cart. The cashiers couldn't figure out how to price match the meat, so they rang it in as "other". Then we had to go to customer service to get our PC points for personal offers on the meat. All in all it added maybe 10 minutes to our shopping trip. My wife is now refusing to go shopping with me for groceries. I added it all up and showed her that we saved $40 just on price matching, which didn't phase her.

What do you say to a person like this? It's not like we are rich and have money to waste. I am scared to let her go shopping alone, so now I have to go alone.
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So is OP a real new member or someone who got banned previously? I mean, right out of the gate w these kinda threads.
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hierophant wrote: There's lots of ways to show you're a "nice" person. Pulling products to the front of the shelf isn't one of them in my opinion. Your wife seems to have some other issues though if something like that sets her off. The responses in this thread are pretty pathetic. No one should feel forced or obligated to do something that they don't want to. He set his boundaries and stuck to it and yet is getting chastised for it. Doesn't mean he's not a nice person. So judgmental
Hi @hierophant

I am afraid you are late to the party ... when it comes to stories about the OP & his wife, especially at the Grocery Store

Might want to read his other Gem of a thread here
http://forums.redflagdeals.com/wife-hat ... g-2339980/

Let’s face it ... guy hasn’t got a clue about compromise
Other people’s feelings
Or just not being a dick to strangers or even his spouse
Kindness and consideration doesn’t seem to be in his vocabulary

Sadly
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Op trolling much?

Just divorce and stop all the whining
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tranquility922 wrote: +1 it all starts w poor attitude like that, then progresses into not holding doors for ppl, then into ppl leaving carts all over the parking lot, then cutting ppl off, driving on shoulders, then making those disgusting right turns from the middle lanes cutting other vehicles off, then driving in the WRONG direction on highways cuz they can't be bothered to wait, then drinking and driving smashing into families. Selfish pricks.
...well that escalated quickly...

LOL
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It sounds like you need a marriage counselor because there seems to be deeper feelings/issues going on here that are bubbling to the surface with trivial things like moving products on a shelf and price matching groceries.
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Probably should've done it since she asked but her calling you selfish is not cool, it's your choice at the end of the day. I get her point of view though, she was probably putting herself in that situation, not being able to reach the item , you should've probably been a bit more emphathetic. It would've been better to simply do it tbh. instead of creating an unnecessary conflict between you to. When my ex asked me to do stupid stuff I wouldn't want to do I'd still do it, I'm sure she did the same for me. Compromise!
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trumprules wrote: I hesitate to even create this thread because it seems so ridiculous, but there is one other thing my wife is angry at me about. I am tall, and the last time we were shopping, I reached a box that was on the top shelf, right at the back. After I grabbed it for us, my wife then asked me, "please move the rest of the boxes to the front of the shelf so others can reach them". I told her, "no. why would I do that? I don't work for Superstore". There was nobody else around who was looking for the item. As far as I'm concerned, that's the store's problem, not mine, and even if someone was actually trying to reach the item I would be under no obligation to help them unless I wanted to. My wife says it's a sign that I am not a nice person, I wouldn't help others, and I wouldn't do something that she asked me to do. She says it would be so easy for me, take only two seconds, and yet I am so selfish and mean that I want people to suffer.

What do you think? Would you do it?
You just spent more time typing this whole thing out and posting it to strangers than it would've taken you to just move the boxes and diffuse the situation with your wife. Think about that for a minute.

Just curious, how long have you been married?
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tranquility922 wrote: +1 it all starts w poor attitude like that, then progresses into not holding doors for ppl, then into ppl leaving carts all over the parking lot, then cutting ppl off, driving on shoulders, then making those disgusting right turns from the middle lanes cutting other vehicles off, then driving in the WRONG direction on highways cuz they can't be bothered to wait, then drinking and driving smashing into families. Selfish pricks.
Half way in I was thinking "hey, I do all that", but you lost me towards the end. Maybe that's yet to come? Anyways, I think it's an undeniable fact that our sense of social cohesion and community is gone in Canada. It's every man, family, or identity group for themselves. I suspect that's the result of too much multiculturalism, which is known to degrade social cohesion, or too big of government that has people fighting against each other for privileges. I don't love it, but that's our current state so I live within it. I am very choosy about who I help. I will do anything for my wife, but not for random strangers.

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